As always, the holidays sneak up on all of us. Knowing what to buy for your partner or loved one can feel like an impossible challenge. Don't worry. We've got you covered with this sexy gift buying guide!

You'll feel inspired to pick out the perfect pleasure-positive gift for your friend or loved one!

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Sexy gifts for your husband or boyfriend

Choosing a gift for your boyfriend, husband, or penis-owning partner can feel overwhelming. They often feel impossible to shop for! 

If they love solo-play, try the F1S™V2 by Lelo. 

Highlights:

• App lets you have an intensely personalized experience

• Super discreet styling makes it a safe bedside accessory

• The interior is made from body-safe silicone, meaning it is a breeze to clean and sanitize!

• Four customizable programs that have up to seven patterns each

• Ten state-of-the-art sensors to give you feedback on your speed, staminal and skills

• The app includes fun games too!

If they're all about technology, try the Arcwave Ion brought to you by the LoveHoney Group.

• The first masturbator that uses the same technology as the sucking vibrator to isolate and stimulate the frenulum, the most sensitive part of the penis

• "The closest thing to a female orgasm for men"

• Made entirely from body-safe silicone, so it's easy to clean

• Entirely waterproof, so safe for shower play

• Has optional smart silence mode so you can enjoy discreet playtime

• Eight intensity modes give you tons of options to play with

• Unique case makes it easy to dry and take care of

Loves anal play? Try the Ditto by We-Vibe

• It has a remote control and an app to enable a personalized or a shared steamy experience

• Body-safe silicone is non-porous and easy to clean

• It has ten different patterns to choose from

• Great for long-distance lovers 

• Fully waterproof, so you can play anywhere you want

• Fully rechargeable

For the long-distance lover

• A personalized keychain that can hold a sexy photo for them to keep with them at all times. You can find them here on Etsy, made by CJWHandmade.

• Grab a clone-a-pussy or clone-a-willy kit, so it always feels like you're right there!

Sexy gifts for your wife or girlfriend

Good luck to all of you who haven't been listening this year! Choosing a sexy gift for a vulva-owning partner can be a challenge. Let's make it simple for you.

If she's all about the clitoris, try the Womanizer Premium 2

• The original inventors of the sucking vibrator and Pleasure Air technology

• Studies have shown that 100% of women who used it had an orgasm within 10 minutes

• Features Autopilot 2.0 letting your toy go through speeds on its own, keeping her on her toes without effort

• Smart Silence technology keeps playtime quiet

• 4-hour battery life

• Waterproof, so safe to use in the shower, bath, pool, anywhere she's into!

• 14 intensity levels keep the intensity exciting 

More of a g-spot gal? Go for the Ina Wave ™ 2 by Lelo

• Rabbit style vibrator with separate engines so she can choose what she's in the mood for

• Unique "come hither" waving technology offers the g-spot the sensation it wants 

• A combination of clitoral and g-spot stimulation means she can enjoy blended orgasms!

• 12 different patterns to choose from

• Ultra-soft, body-safe silicone makes cleaning up and sharing a breeze!

Does she want it all? Try the Duo by Womanizer or the Enigma by Lelo.

They both offer unique sucking pleasure and g-spot stimulation! If she hasn't squirted just yet, leave her alone with one of these for a little while. 

If she already has it all, try something small like the Sensuva ON natural arousal orgasm oil.

This itty bitty bottle packs a punch that it can't compare to anything else. Often called a vibrator without a vibrator, apply one or two drops to her clitoris, and she'll have the time of her life!

Sexy gifts for couples

Are you looking for something that you can both enjoy together? Couples' toys can help you share experiential intimacy, deepening your connection and bringing you closer. 

Regardless of your gender, you can try these kinds of toys!

For beginners who are just starting to explore new sensations:

Try the Fin® finger vibrator by Dame. Made from medical-grade silicone, it makes all kinds of exploration safe.

Anyone can enjoy the unique sensations of a wand-style vibrator. The Wand-er Woman created by Satisfyer offers unique, deep, rumbly sensations that will bring anyone to their knees. 

We all have an anus.

So why not try some anal toys? Try the Bootie by Fun Factory, which is made from medical-grade silicone. That means it's hypoallergenic, easy to sanitize, and safe to share!

Or, if you're looking to dive a little into the world of kink

You can try these under-the-mattress restraints or a bondage sex game from LoveHoney!

Sexy gifts for your sex-positive friends

What do you buy your sex-positive friends? The ones who you can call and tell about your kinky weekend away with Daddy from Grindr or the ones who you call up looking for fetish fun tips? Well, lots of things!

On Etsy, you'll find a fantastic assortment of sex-positive materials any pleasure enthusiast would be thrilled to receive! 

One of our favorites is FithyFabousCo, an inclusive, body-positive brand that creates fun adult jewellery and gifts.

Based in Manchester, UK, the company makes products to get people talking about their bodies and hopes to smash the stigma around sexuality.

It's LGBT-owned, and profits go towards the maker's own training as a psychotherapist. From clitoris keychains to titty earrings, you'll be spoiled for choice!

Pleasurepie, a US-based designer, offers everything from sex-positive affirmation zines to pins and complete gift sets!

Are you looking for something sexy and body-positive?

Check out the gorgeous and simple earrings created by TheDreamsofEve shop. Their simple wire-frame styles come in curvy bodies, penises, vulvas, and more!

Are they the type to make a sex-positive, shame-free statement?

PinPenMerger offers wearable progressive messaging such as "PrEP," "Sex work is work," and "Be gay, do healthcare."

Similarly, ZeroGraficsStudio creates patches and stickers emblazoned with memorable tidbits. You can choose options like "support your local sex workers," "You say slut like tis a bad thing," and "every shape and size is right."

No sexuality educator's collection could ever be complete without a vulva puppet. WonderousVulvaPuppet has been making them since 1993! Including the very same one featured on Portlandia.

If you're still not sure what to get, send me a message, I'll be happy to point you in the right sex-positive, pleasure-focused direction!

“The excellence of a gift lies in its appropriateness rather than in its value.”

— Charles Dudley Warner

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