How Important is the Clitoris? What you don’t know will surprise you
The clitoris is commonly called the female powerhouse of pleasure, which is for many excellent reasons. The clitoris is found at the top of the vulva, close to where the two lips come together. It is a sensitive area right where your inner vulva lips meet. It is filled with ultra-sensitive nerve endings. This beautiful pleasure button is responsible for 75% of female orgasms. This little nub packs a powerful pleasure punch, but what you see is just the tip of the iceberg.
Your actual clitoral body extends several inches into your body and lines the lips of your vulva.
Get to know more about the clitoris and clitoral body, so you can give it the most pleasure possible.
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What is the clitoral body?
The clitoral body has only recently been made common knowledge.
Thanks much in part to the efforts of urologist Helen O’Connell. Don’t worry. It’s not that you missed a day in a sex education class. It just didn’t become widespread knowledge until the 2000s.
The erect clitoral body has two long cruces that frame the clitoral bulbs.
It all comes together at the very tip, where you find the clitoral hood.
The clitoral hood protects the visible clitoris. The visible clitoris is just as it sounds, the part you can typically see and directly stimulate.
What very few people know is that the clitoral body gets erections just like a penis.
These erections often leave vulva-owners feeling the urge to urinate.
The clitoral bulbs rest along the urethra.
When a clitoral erection happens, the bulbs swell and put pressure on the urethra.
This pressure may make you feel like you need to pee.
What is also happening is that you’re building up ejaculate and lubrication.
How knowing your clitoral body will improve your sex life
People are supposed to be mind readers in the bedroom.
You’re just supposed to “know” what your partner wants and how to do that at the exact right time.
This expectation is damaging and completely unrealistic.
The only way to become the best lover possible is to get to know your own body and what you like.
Once you know that well enough, you can communicate your needs to your partner(s).
Doing this well takes masturbatory practice and experimentation.
Many vulva-owners experience low or no sexual desire.
That is often because they expect to only experience orgasm from vaginal penetration.
Orgasm from penetration is the exception not the rule.
This could be because you depend on sexual penetration to give you an orgasm.
By taking time and focusing on your clitoris, you’ll experience more pleasure which may help you with your low desire.
The clitoris and “lady boners”
You may notice how similar the clitoral body looks to the penis.
That is because the clitoris and the penis are homologous.
Homologous means that they are made of the same tissues.
During gestation, either the presence or absence of testosterone causes you to develop genitalia.
Until about week eight, everyone has all the same tissues in the same shapes.
They begin to form into a penis only when testosterone comes into play.
This shared tissue means that the penis and the vulva experience pleasure from similar sensations.
Also, this means that your clitoral body will also experience erections.
When adequately aroused, the clitoral body will become engorged with blood.
Your visible clitoris will become firm.
Some people have a very small visible clitoris, so it may not be easy to notice.
Others have a more apparent visible clitoris.
Their clitoral erection may be able to be stroked during full arousal.
How to pleasure the clitoris
The clitoris you can see is erect, meaning that it has already been thoroughly aroused.
Arousal takes, on average, 10-20 minutes to occur.
Follow these steps to get the most out of your solo sex:
Go to the bathroom and make sure that you’ve fully emptied your bladder. You don’t want to confuse urine and female ejaculation! Since your urethra runs through the clitoral body, it will put pressure on the urethra when you get erect.
Get yourself relaxed. Turn your phone off and do something for you like running a bath, taking a walk, or having a nap. Getting yourself in the right headspace can improve your orgasmic experience.
Do a quick meditation. Usually, people live either in their heads or in their bodies. Meditation helps you learn to focus on your body and the sensations that it experiences. This focus can heighten your sexual experience immensely.
Give yourself a massage. Touch is crucial to the sexual response cycle. By spending 5-10 minutes massaging your body, you may notice that your clitoris responds as well.
Once you notice that magical tingle happening between your legs, don’t immediately go for your clit! Grab some lubricant and take the time to massage your entire vulva. Spend time rubbing and teasing your outer and inner lips. This process will give your clitoral body plenty of time to get fully erect.
When you’re ready, head towards your visible clitoris. Try and feel (or look) for your clitoral hood and feel your clitoris to feel its shaft. The shaft is what goes into your body and becomes the entire clitoral body. Pleasure this area any way you think is good for you! You may find that you’re more sensitive on the sides of your clitoris or that you like direct stimulation. These are all crucial tidbits for you to share with a partner later on!
When you take the time to arouse your clitoral body, your whole body has the opportunity to work with you.
You may notice that your heart starts to pound, your blood starts to pump, your skin gets warmer, and breasts swell.
A lot happens when you’re fully turned on.
Inside your vagina, tenting starts to occur.
Your uterus and cervix will tilt slightly, the vaginal canal relaxes and opens up.
Your V-spot will begin to try and pull objects in delicately.
You’ll also notice that you begin to make some (or a lot) of lubrication as well.
You may feel kind of like you want to urinate around the time of orgasm.
Keep going.
Squirting or female ejaculation happens after orgasm, and it feels similar to the need to urinate.
While it does come out of the urethra, it is not urine.
Clitoral orgasms
On average, 75% of women require direct clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm.
Having a penetrative orgasm is the exception rather than the rule.
If you haven’t experienced an orgasm quite yet and are ready to try, there are many tools out there to help you.
Vibrators such as the magic wand are incredibly popular.
They are specifically designed to generate strong vibrations that can bring you to orgasm.
Many women struggle to have an orgasm without one of these handy.
Looking to take your masturbation game up a notch?
No product comes with higher reviews than the sucking vibrator.
Womanizer, the brand that invented and patented the sucking technology, has undergone many scientific studies.
These studies showed that 100% of women could experience an orgasm with the help of this magic tool.
Whatever toy you choose, make sure it is safe for use and that you’re using a compatible lubricant with it.
For many, this article will be shocking. There is a lot of information that isn’t common knowledge other than those in the sexology field. If you want to learn more about sexual anatomy, arousal, pleasure, and orgasm, schedule a call with me today for a sexuality education session.
“The clitoris is pure in purpose. It is the only organ in the body designed purely for pleasure.”
— Eve Ensler, The Vagina Monologues
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