Arousal should happen spontaneously and impulsively, right? Wrong. Most people get "sex education" from pornography. We've learned that you should be drop-dead wet as soon as the sexy pizza delivery guy shows up. You should be down to get down. Well, this isn't the case for most of the world. In Emily Nagoski's landmark book, Come as You Are, spontaneous arousal is the exception rather than the rule. There are several types of arousal that you need to consider before you start worrying about your libido.

This won't be the definitive guide to discovering your one arousal type. But instead, give you permission to be curious about which type you feel like each day.

Erections are temperamental. That shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone. Therefore, erection problems are plentiful and often greeted with inappropriate and rude responses. It's one of the most common sexual issues that men face. But should you take a pill to ensure you have a strong erection on demand? In my professional opinion, absolutely not. Plenty of at-home remedies for erection issues can work wonders for you.

Men masturbate. That isn't a secret to anyone, anywhere. After all, with sexual expression just a few hand motions away, why not? But, after so many years - the same old tug and rub might get a little boring. There are plenty of new ways to masturbate for men that you likely haven't tried yet.

Masturbators come in all kinds of varieties, from expensive and long-lasting to cheap and disposable. Whatever type you go for, you're likely going to want to use it more than once. Caring for pocket pussies or masturbators doesn't have to be complicated. It's beneficial if you build yourself a little cleaning kit and routine to be second nature after nature calls.

Answering the questions "what do you like?" and "what turns you on?" may sound sexy, simple, and straightforward. And to some people, they may be. But deeper desires and new erogenous zones lie all over your body, waiting to be tapped into and discovered. Whether it's the touch of a hand, the crack of a whip, or the vibrations of a sex toy, you'll only find out if you try.

So many vulva-owners only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. While this is entirely normal, perhaps some more experimentation could be beneficial. Your deep vaginal erogenous zones may help you experience penetrative orgasmic pleasure.

Learning where each of these zones is will give your solo-sex and lovemaking a new kind of depth.

You've heard all about it, but you're still not quite sure what BDSM is.

BDSM is a grossly misappropriated and misunderstood topic. It is often blown out of proportion or demonized by popular media.

BDSM groups and practices are based around mutual consent and different types of erotic experiences. They are a completely healthy expression of sexuality. Often, it doesn't involve penetrative sex.

It's all about the erotic exchange of power.

You’re ready to get to the good stuff, but you want to be prepared. There are plenty of ways to do anal sex wrong on your first try.

I’m going to talk about how to do anal sex the right way your first time.

This article is the final piece in my exhaustive Anal 101 series. I strongly suggest you read the previous three parts so that you have all the information you could ever need.

If you're anxious about anal play, there is an easy way to make it more pleasurable. Anal training allows you to get familiar with the feeling of having something in your backside. It also can help stretch things out, so you're better prepared for penetration.

No one wants to start anal sex with no idea of what to expect. Knowing your anal anatomy will help you prepare for training and penetration. It will also make your anal experience positive and pleasurable. I’m breaking down how to have anal sex into four key pieces. You'll become an anal expert overnight!

The clitoris is commonly called the female powerhouse of pleasure, which is for many excellent reasons.

The clitoris is found at the top of the vulva, close to where the two lips come together. It is a sensitive area right where your inner vulva lips meet. It is filled with ultra-sensitive nerve endings. This beautiful pleasure button is responsible for 75% of female orgasms. This little nub packs a powerful pleasure punch, but what you see is just the tip of the iceberg.

Sex and porn addiction seem to be in the news constantly. Many people debate whether or not they are true "addictions" in the medical sense of the word. Regardless of whether they fit the DSM's exact criteria, many people are addicted to the rush they give them.

If you or someone you love is addicted to sex or pornography, recovery is possible. First, you need to understand what sex and porn addiction are and the impact they can have.

When it comes to sex of any kind, wetter is better. However, choosing the perfect lubricant is difficult. There is so much variety available. How can you decide which lubricant is best for you?

There are five main types of lubricants. Water-based lubricants, Silicone-based lubricants, hybrid lubricants, naturally-based lubricants, and oil-based lubricants.

To choose just one, you need to know (1) is it condom compatible? (2) is it suitable for your skin type? (3) does it meet your sexual needs?

Opening a sex toy website or walking into an "adult" store can be overwhelming. There are toys of every shape and size. You may find yourself asking, "who can choose just one?" It can be much easier to choose one than you might expect. The most important thing to know is what materials are safe for your body.

When it comes to sex toys, your safety is your responsibility. The adult toy industry is largely unregulated. It is up to you to know the different options out there.