Arousal should happen spontaneously and impulsively, right? Wrong. Most people get "sex education" from pornography. We've learned that you should be drop-dead wet as soon as the sexy pizza delivery guy shows up. You should be down to get down. Well, this isn't the case for most of the world. In Emily Nagoski's landmark book, Come as You Are, spontaneous arousal is the exception rather than the rule. There are several types of arousal that you need to consider before you start worrying about your libido.

This won't be the definitive guide to discovering your one arousal type. But instead, give you permission to be curious about which type you feel like each day.

Masturbation is a healthy practice. It improves your mood, helps improve the quality of your sleep, and can help you get ready for a big date. Masturbation has been hidden away and avoided for far too long. It is a topic that should be discussed and normalized as part of the broader conversation about sexuality.

Erections are temperamental. That shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone. Therefore, erection problems are plentiful and often greeted with inappropriate and rude responses. It's one of the most common sexual issues that men face. But should you take a pill to ensure you have a strong erection on demand? In my professional opinion, absolutely not. Plenty of at-home remedies for erection issues can work wonders for you.

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) impact nearly 1 in 5 people daily in the U.S. Due to the exaggerated risks and mythology around STIs, there is a lot of misinformation out there.

I want to cover 6 of the most common STIs and how you can detect them.

Practicing safe sex and getting tested for STIs regularly is your best option for protection. Get regular sexual health screenings, including blood tests, use barrier methods during sexual activity, and lubricants to help prevent STIs in general.

You've heard all about it, but you're still not quite sure what BDSM is.

BDSM is a grossly misappropriated and misunderstood topic. It is often blown out of proportion or demonized by popular media.

BDSM groups and practices are based around mutual consent and different types of erotic experiences. They are a completely healthy expression of sexuality. Often, it doesn't involve penetrative sex.

It's all about the erotic exchange of power.