What is a Dating Coach? What does a dating coach do and why I could be the best dating coach for you
Dating and relationships are rough. Especially in the current world, finding your way in the dating minefield can be a serious challenge. A challenge that very few people have the time for. That's why there are dating coaches. A dating coach works with you 1:1 to help you find the right love for you.
What is a dating coach? A dating coach helps you figure out why your current dating strategy (if you have one) isn't working. We work together to create a plan for you that is goal-focused, time-bound, and efficient. You stop wasting useless hours on dating apps and avoid bad dates. Dating coaching is about having a strategy. This strategy makes your dating experience as pain-free and productive as possible.
Essentially, what a dating coach is is an efficient path toward finding a lasting and healthy relationship.
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What is a dating coach?
A dating coach is someone with substantial experience in the dating field.
We offer services to help you become the most dateable person you can be. A dating coach helps you learn your natural strengths and areas of improvement.
Doing this helps you become the best version of yourself.
After all, if you want to attract the best partner possible, shouldn't you be your best possible version of yourself?
A dating coach sits with you and listens.
I want to hear your story, your heartbreak, and what you're looking for.
I want to help you overcome your personal challenges.
The best dating coach sees you as a whole person, made up of different facets of personality, interests, and queen-ness.
We seek to learn and help you understand who you are as an individual and help you learn to highlight your best parts.
It's a series of one-on-one meetings coupled with out-of-coaching session workbooks. These are targeted at helping you develop yourself. We focus on you because you deserve to be your best self. And it's your best self, the one living out your dreams, that attracts the right man into your life.
Once you strive toward being your best self, we focus on your dating strategy.
We audit and edit your dating pictures and profiles and create alternative methods for meeting men in real life.
For example, helping you build the confidence to get a man to approach you at a bar. That is a type of magnetism that you have inside you. You just might need some help finding it.
That's why the best dating coaches help you build the best version of yourself, so everyone else can sense and see it.
What does a dating coach do?
Specifically, we're cheerleaders, accountability buddies, and plan makers. In your first coaching session, we sit face to face and figure out what is going wrong. From there we can start to make micro decisions towards meeting the right man. These tiny micro decisions can help you get a clearer vision of who you want to be and who you want to be with. We can work backward by determining what you're looking for in a life partner.
This principle of reverse engineering is key to what I do as a dating coach.
Once we have your goals and aspirations written down, we can help you figure out how to start living your best life. Not by making dramatic changes immediately but by building small and sustainable habits.
My coaching strategy is unique because I see you as a whole person.
I see you as a culmination of your experiences, past and future.
Who you want to become and who you are are the basis of the pyramid of self-development here.
So while we're talking, I'm taking mental notes of how fabulous you really are.
I'm working behind the scenes to help you, you incredible woman, draw out your strength.
I plan how you will become the person you've always wanted to be.
Once you've started taking those steps, you'll be shocked at the new types of attention you'll start getting. Pretty much immediately as well. Once you start living the best life and have someone to hold you accountable, you'll see how magnetic you become.
While you talk, I listen.
While you dream, I strategize.
While you follow through, I'm there cheering you along the whole way.
I'm action focused. I'm goal-oriented. And I am here to help you be your best self.
What does a dating coaching session look like?
You ask the best questions.
A dating coaching session with me, Elaine from SexWithElaine.com, is a simple 1:1 virtual call.
Each session lasts 60-minutes, and you're free to talk about whatever you want.
I'll guide you to see how whatever you're facing at this moment is impacting your dating life and your ability to love yourself.
During the sessions, everything is 100% confidential and all about you. We're going to be obsessed with your personal progress.
We'll discuss things like:
How your role models growing up wrote your love script
What small choices you can make to improve yourself
What your ideal partner will look like
How to date yourself
How to write your best possible dating profile
How to choose the best dating profile pictures
Your love languages
Your sex beliefs and practices
What you want from a partner
And so much more!
These sessions will be lightly guided and jam-packed.
After you leave the session, you'll have a written list of steps and tasks you will accomplish before our next call. The calls can be weekly, twice monthly, monthly, or whatever you need to get results.
You'll have your tasks in your hand to start progressing to being the most datable version of yourself. You have the raw magnetism to attract and hold onto just about anyone you want.
What a dating coach does for you is take the guesswork out and ensure you're taking steps forward instead of staying still.
Who needs a dating coach?
Technically, everyone could benefit from spending time with a dating coach. Dating is about slowly revealing who you truly are, and that best self is often hidden even to you. By working with a dating coach, you'll learn more about yourself than you ever thought possible.
Similar to therapy, we'll dive into your past and learn what things have gone wrong for you. After all, we all make mistakes, and love really is a battlefield.
By unpacking and taking lessons from your past, we'll know what to avoid and have a solid plan.
Wouldn't having more solid plans for your future be helpful?
It's something that many people struggle with, and that's why dating coaches are here for you.
If you're unsure if you need a dating coach, ask yourself some of these questions:
Am I too busy to date?
Am I really ready for a relationship?
Do I want to be my best self?
Am I prepared to stop making excuses about why I'm single?
Am I ready to stop living in fear of another heartbreak?
Am I ready to figure out where I'm going in life?
Am I ready to stop swiping aimlessly on dating apps?
Am I ready to accept help?
If you answered yes to any of those, you're the type of person who would benefit from a dating coach.
I'm here to help you be yourself fully and authentically. I'm the highlighter on your cheek and the tune jamming in your headphones. You're the one walking the walk, and I'll help you learn how to talk the talk.
What can a dating coach help with?
Dating is rough. And I understand intimately why it is that way. Having made more mistakes and errors in judgment than I'd like to admit, I have an intimate familiarity with dating issues. Some of the things that I specialize in that I can help you with are:
Building self-confidence from the ground up
Developing healthy and productive habits
Reframing and improving your self-talk
Restructuring and rewriting your scripts and beliefs around dating
Helping you become a more magnetic person
Helping you pick better men to date
Helping you integrate your sexuality into yourself as a human being
Improving your abilities in bed
Insight into how you can develop a deep and intimate relationship with a partner
Help you speak more fluidly and freely
Assist and guide you towards finding hobbies that align with your ideal self
Get over a breakup and hang-ups from the past
Streamline your life's systems
Overcome daily or regular anxieties in life, so you can live a fuller and more fulfilling life
Dating coaching is more than finding you a partner. It's about finding a partner within yourself, so you're ready to be with someone. You're not looking for your other half. You're already complete. You just need a little elbow grease to highlight all the amazing qualities you already possess. That's what I do best.
Why should I work with you?
I'm not just a dating coach.
I'm also a relationship and sex coach.
Therefore, I can take in many aspects that makeup who you are in the dating world. With this we create a more comprehensive plan. I'm a natural-born planner and motivator. I am thoroughly educated and obsessed with helping you be the best you.
My dating experience is plentiful, and I've had the classic story that's likely similar to yours.
I tolerated scores of failed relationships, bad dates, and situationships for far too long.
It wasn't until I started walking the walk that I began to build a sense of confidence and self-trust. These things helped me make the best decision of my life.
I took a leap of faith with myself and jumped into who I had always wanted to be. I crossed a mission off my bucket list. Because I did that even before I felt ready, I met the love of my life.
A totally chance meeting on the canals of Amsterdam. It has led me across the world, several pandemics and years later, we're still going strong.
On this journey I learned that I wasn't going to meet and keep the right man unless I made a change. Until I started seeing myself as the right woman, I wouldn't find the right man.
It's because of that that I am especially capable of helping you.
I've studied dating, sex, and relationships all over the world. From the US to Asia to Europe and now Australia - I've gotten perspectives from across the globe. Now, I can leverage that experience to help you be your best self.
All these experiences, stories, and the lives I've lived make me the best dating coach.
I'm here to help you. I'm here, so you can stop reading crappy magazines about love, so you stop feeling sorry for yourself on Friday nights. So you can start being everything you want to be.
What I do as a dating coach is complex, and it'll take you on journeys you likely thought you didn't dare to take. But we'll go through them together, and you'll have guidance and care every step of the way.
How do I start dating coaching?
It's easier than you likely think! I've built a simple system that allows you to start getting customized support as soon as possible.
Just send me an inquiry and we can get the first call scheduled.
If we're the right fit, you just book your first coaching call.
It's that easy.
Minimal information to fill out. Minimal steps for you to take beforehand. All you need to do is trust your instincts and take the plunge.
Dating doesn't have to be this hard. All you need and deserve is some help. If you're ready to find the love of your life, inquire to book your call with me now.
“A great relationship doesn’t happen because of the love you had in the beginning but how well you continue building love until the end.”
— Unknown
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