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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.

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How to Perform Cunnilingus | Cunnilingus tips, tricks, and techniques you need to know

Cunnilingus has gone from an unspoken pastime to the front page of every magazine. But most people struggle to understand how to give the best oral sex to a woman. The female gentiles have long been regarded as a mysterious zone without a surefire way to pleasure it. It is personal to each vulva owner. If you’re wondering how to perform cunnilingus, I’ll tell you all of the areas you need to learn how to tempt with your tongue.

Female oral pleasure shouldn't be a mystery. It should be part and parcel of every sexual encounter and experience.

Why?

Let me tell you why.

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What Does a Dating Coach do? Why you need a dating coach in 2023

Dating coaching is a new advent in finding "the one." Since the pioneers of the matching-making field first arose on social media, the niche has become filled with wannabes and credentialless people trying to help. But one facet of dating coaching many miss. It's the one that sets working with me apart from the noise. It's the you factor. Learning the rules and mechanics of how to look and sound right is essential. However, until you know who you are, you'll keep settling for the wrong person repeatedly. That's what a dating coach does. We help you clarify who you are and solidify who you're looking for. That way, you can go out into the dating world with confidence and a discerning eye.

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Want More Sex in Your Relationship? - My secret tool for bringing back the sex

I've written a lot about how important it is to keep dating your partner. But, I still need to give you my fundamental secret tool, how you can work together to plan a date. Using the 5 love languages to plan date nights is a great way to be thoughtful without putting in too much thought.

These are specific love-language-speaking-intimacy-building-memorable-date-night plans. And yes, it does require a little planning and effort up top. But if you do it properly, you should have years of date nights planned ahead.

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What is a Self-care Menu? Why you need one and how it can help you avoid depressive episodes

The self-care menu is something that I came up with myself to help me cope with depressive episodes.

That's right, even a coach can have depressive episodes.

But the menu is one of the many coping mechanisms which help me get through dark and challenging times.

Just what a self-care menu is, you'll have to keep reading to find out.

By the end of this article, you'll have yet another healthy coping mechanism in your pocket. These self-care menus can help you get through the challenging parts of life easily.

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At Home Erection Remedies: How to fix your erection issues without medication

Erections are temperamental. That shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone. Therefore, erection problems are plentiful and often greeted with inappropriate and rude responses. It's one of the most common sexual issues that men face. But should you take a pill to ensure you have a strong erection on demand? In my professional opinion, absolutely not. Plenty of at-home remedies for erection issues can work wonders for you.

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You’re Probably Ruining Your Sex Life - 17 harmful myths about sex you probably still believe

Sex is amazing when you let it happen naturally and go with the flow. However, very few people can even do that because of the sexual scripts we've been taught our whole lives. Those problematic sexual expectations are carried into porn and even sex education in our schools. If you want to learn how to have the best sex of your life, you first need to unlearn everything you think you "know" about sex.

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List of Common Kinks - Top 10 most popular kinks & fetishes

If you've spent time on a porn site recently, you likely noticed the insanely long lists of porn categories. Why are there so many? How many people are searching for those niche kinks and fetishes? As life goes on, you'll find that everyone has a kink - but no one is talking about them. That's why we've made this list of common kinks, so you know that you're not alone in what you're into.

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Birth Control Basics - Know your options and make the best choice for you

Perhaps you're new to using birth control methods, or maybe you've tried a few and are looking for the right fit. Choosing the right birth control for you can feel daunting, and like there are too many options.

The truth of the matter is that there are tons of different birth control options available. Many are equally effective, but not all of them will be ideal for you.

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Still Struggling to Have the Big O? - Female masturbation advice from a sexologist

Masturbation is vital for your mental, emotional, and physical health.

Masturbation is the act of exploring your body and what sensations you enjoy.

It's meant to be a pleasure-filled experience focused on the journey, not the destination.

Too many people concentrate on the orgasmic aspect of masturbation. That's just a single second.

The whole experience is meant to bring pleasure and intimate personal knowledge.

This female masturbation guide is designed, so you can explore your body and your sensuality.

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How to Control Your Emotions - Stop letting your thoughts and emotions control you

Humans are emotional beings. You are no exception.

You're bound to suffer through sadness, stress, and anger. These help lead you to beautiful feelings such as happiness, love, and gratitude.

Did you know that you are not at the mercy of your emotions?

You can learn how to control your thoughts and feelings easily with a bit of guidance and practice.

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How to Initiate Sex? | A Guide for everyone

Initiating sex is a spot of contention in many couples. In an ideal world, all partners would experience sexual desire simultaneously. However, that rarely happens.

Not everyone is comfortable initiating sex, even in a committed relationship. We want to teach you what it might feel like to be your partner and creative ways for you to start initiating sex.

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Why You Need to Wear a Condom - The 6 most common STIs and how to prevent them

Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) impact nearly 1 in 5 people daily in the U.S. Due to the exaggerated risks and mythology around STIs, there is a lot of misinformation out there.

I want to cover 6 of the most common STIs and how you can detect them.

Practicing safe sex and getting tested for STIs regularly is your best option for protection. Get regular sexual health screenings, including blood tests, use barrier methods during sexual activity, and lubricants to help prevent STIs in general.

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Prostate Health and Pleasure - What you need to know

The prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that is part of the male (penis-owner) reproductive and ejaculatory system. It is highly regarded by backdoor pleasure enthusiasts because of the earth-rocking orgasms it provides.

Understanding what the prostate is, where it is, and what it does can help you unlock layers of sexual pleasure you haven’t yet experienced.

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The Real Truth About Penis Size - Does it matter or not?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Almost everyone is self-conscious about their genitals. Penis-owners tend to experience a tremendous amount of shame about the appearance, color, size, and angle of their penises.

This shame is because the myth perpetrated by magazines, pornography, and cultural stigma persists that bigger means better.

Want to know how your penis stacks up against others?

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How Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships - What attachments styles are and how to find yours

Have you ever been called "clingy"? Or "emotionally absent"? You behave these ways because your attachment style in relationships molds how you act. There are four different attachment styles, three of which are insecure, one is secure. The good news is that you can change your attachment style.

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