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Dating Duds? Set dating goals to cut the crap! | A step-by-step dating goal guide
Dating can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience, especially if you need clarification about what you want. The prospect of setting dating goals may seem odd or even aggressive. But it's how you get clarity before you sink your teeth into the dating game (likely not for the first time.) It's also essential that you know what your dating goals are so you can communicate them clearly to a potential partner. That ensures you're both on the same page and have no unspoken expectations. In this article, I will walk you through identifying your dating goals so you can finally get started with intention and clarity.
Why You Aren’t Reaching Your Goals | How to build self-trust
We're well into another year, and the time for resolutions has come and gone. You've disappointed yourself again and fallen far from where you wanted to be. That's a normal part of the process of reaching your goals, but should it be? There is a reason why you never follow through on your resolutions. There's a reason why you keep disappointing yourself. There's a reason why you feel stuck and lost. You need to include the secret ingredient of reaching your goals, self-trust.
How to Get Space in Your Relationship: Differentiation of self - what it is, why you need it, and how to get it
Relationships can be amazing things. Your partner can be supportive, fun, and your best friend. But on the other end of the spectrum, what happens when you get too close? What happens when you become a singular item and can't get any space for yourself? Resentment builds. Being too close to your partner can actually be a bad thing. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but hear me out. Relationships aren't two halves coming together. They're two whole individuals choosing to be together. They're meant to be complementary, not complete you. You're complete on your own.
What is a Self-care Menu? Why you need one and how it can help you avoid depressive episodes
The self-care menu is something that I came up with myself to help me cope with depressive episodes.
That's right, even a coach can have depressive episodes.
But the menu is one of the many coping mechanisms which help me get through dark and challenging times.
Just what a self-care menu is, you'll have to keep reading to find out.
By the end of this article, you'll have yet another healthy coping mechanism in your pocket. These self-care menus can help you get through the challenging parts of life easily.
Dating Fatigue - It’s very real but this is how you can use it to your advantage
Dating fatigue is real.
You spend hours swiping, weekends on dates, and weekdays planning dates, and you're just burnt out. Looking for that special someone means constantly putting yourself out there. Your heart is constantly on your sleeve and yet, you fall short of your goal. That hurts and it's exhausting.
Habits of Successful Relationships - How to make your relationship healthier and happier
You're here because you want to have a successful long-term relationship. And we congratulate you on identifying that desire! But how will you be able to determine if you're in a healthy relationship? In order to find the love of your life, you need to start developing successful relationship habits. Knowing these success habits, you can practice them on your own and when you enter into an intimate relationship.
7 Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable - What it means, how to spot it, and how to choose better men
Have you ever gotten into a situationship by accident? The man you went out with in the first place said he was looking for a relationship, but then he back-pedaled? He seems to want all the benefits of having a girlfriend but isn't willing to commit. These actions define emotional unavailability.
5 Dimensions of Self-Care - How to make your ultimate self-care menu
Self-care is all the rage all the time these days! It's such an essential aspect of your self-development and maintaining your mental health. Often a few shifts in awareness are all it takes to get more self-care into your day-to-day life. But for many people, self-care tends to take a back burner to other "priorities," and it can lead to burnout.
Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship? How unspoken needs and expectations can ruin everything
Dating and communication go hand-in-hand. That should go without saying. But, so few were genuinely taught how to communicate in healthy ways. You're in the right place if you think your dating life and communication style aren't working out. As it turns out, you can easily sabotage your intimate relationships by not openly expressing your needs.
Online Dating Advice for Ladies: What you need to know about online dating in 2022 powered by real statistics
Online dating has been around since the 1990s when the internet started to become commonplace. Before online dating, there were personal ads, speed dating events, and places where you could try to meet someone special. But with your phone constantly in your hand, the prospect of meeting mister right seems like it's just a few swipes away. But try as you might, as many swipes as you swipe, you just can't seem to find the "one," but why is that?
What is Personal Intimacy - What it is and why you need to make it your top priority
Intimacy is a hot relationship topic. It's all about developing your relationship with your partner or spouse. But what about your relationship with yourself? What about personal intimacy? Do you feel emotionally connected to yourself?
Still Struggling to Have the Big O? - Female masturbation advice from a sexologist
Masturbation is vital for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Masturbation is the act of exploring your body and what sensations you enjoy.
It's meant to be a pleasure-filled experience focused on the journey, not the destination.
Too many people concentrate on the orgasmic aspect of masturbation. That's just a single second.
The whole experience is meant to bring pleasure and intimate personal knowledge.
This female masturbation guide is designed, so you can explore your body and your sensuality.
What is “Dating Yourself”? Why you need to do it right now.
It isn't a secret that the responsibility for a better sex life rests with both partners. If you're in a long-term relationship, putting the pressure on a single partner to improve your sex life isn't fair. But for those who are uncomfortable, shy, or lack confidence in the bedroom, where are you supposed to start?
How Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships - What attachments styles are and how to find yours
Have you ever been called "clingy"? Or "emotionally absent"? You behave these ways because your attachment style in relationships molds how you act. There are four different attachment styles, three of which are insecure, one is secure. The good news is that you can change your attachment style.