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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.
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5 Dimensions of Self-Care - How to make your ultimate self-care menu
Self-care is all the rage all the time these days! It's such an essential aspect of your self-development and maintaining your mental health. Often a few shifts in awareness are all it takes to get more self-care into your day-to-day life. But for many people, self-care tends to take a back burner to other "priorities," and it can lead to burnout.
Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship? How unspoken needs and expectations can ruin everything
Dating and communication go hand-in-hand. That should go without saying. But, so few were genuinely taught how to communicate in healthy ways. You're in the right place if you think your dating life and communication style aren't working out. As it turns out, you can easily sabotage your intimate relationships by not openly expressing your needs.
Online Dating Advice for Ladies: What you need to know about online dating in 2022 powered by real statistics
Online dating has been around since the 1990s when the internet started to become commonplace. Before online dating, there were personal ads, speed dating events, and places where you could try to meet someone special. But with your phone constantly in your hand, the prospect of meeting mister right seems like it's just a few swipes away. But try as you might, as many swipes as you swipe, you just can't seem to find the "one," but why is that?
Keep Dating Fixer-uppers? What they are, why you keep choosing them, and how to stop dating them
Many people love a good project around the house or long-term self-improvement goals. But if you notice your relationships feel like chores, you may be dating fixer-uppers. Supporting someone's self-improvement can be a great asset to a relationship. Still, it shouldn't be a defining factor in the partners you choose. If your entire relationship style is built around reforming a guy, you're in for a world of hurt.
The End of Bad Dates - 13 questions to determine compatibility
When you're dating, you don't want to waste your time. You may find people you're interested in, but you feel like some aspects of your personality just don't match up. Maybe you can't put your finger on exactly why you're feeling that way. There may be several reasons. To get to the bottom of it, you should ask specific questions to determine compatibility as partners.
How You Can be Single and Happy - 10 tips on how to make the most of your singledom
Being single can suck. But it really, really shouldn't. When you're single and unattached, you'll have the most time and opportunity to grow and expand your identity. You can discover more about yourself, and figure out what you need in a partner. You can start living your happy single life now if you're ready to take advantage of it!
You’re Probably Ruining Your Sex Life - 17 harmful myths about sex you probably still believe
Sex is amazing when you let it happen naturally and go with the flow. However, very few people can even do that because of the sexual scripts we've been taught our whole lives. Those problematic sexual expectations are carried into porn and even sex education in our schools. If you want to learn how to have the best sex of your life, you first need to unlearn everything you think you "know" about sex.
Your First Date Strategy: Rules and a step-by-step guide for getting ready
Butterflies in your stomach, feeling giddy, you start to wonder about a future together. First dates are the best, right? Well, not for everyone. First dates can be a nerve-wracking experience.
What is Personal Intimacy - What it is and why you need to make it your top priority
Intimacy is a hot relationship topic. It's all about developing your relationship with your partner or spouse. But what about your relationship with yourself? What about personal intimacy? Do you feel emotionally connected to yourself?
What is a Situationship? Definition, types, and how to know if you’re in one
What is a situationship? You've seen the word pop up all over. Maybe you've got some idea of what it means - but how do you know if you're in a situationship? Is being in a situationship a bad thing?
9 Signs Someone Values You - What to look for in that new match
To decide if someone is worth keeping around in an intimate relationship, you need to know if they value you. If a person cares about you, they'll behave in specific ways that show you they want to be with you. To figure out if this person is right for you, look out for these signs that someone values you.
Step-by-Step Guide to Healing a Broken Heart - How to get over your ex in 8 steps
Very little in this world hurts a person as much as heartbreak can. You genuinely feel physical pain throughout your body. Colors become duller, food loses its taste, and all you can do is seek cheap dopamine to feel better. While feeling the pain of heartbreak is part of the healing process, there is much more to it. Learning how to heal your broken heart is a process everyone goes through. Luckily, you are here for a bit of a cheat sheet.
Birth Control Basics - Know your options and make the best choice for you
Perhaps you're new to using birth control methods, or maybe you've tried a few and are looking for the right fit. Choosing the right birth control for you can feel daunting, and like there are too many options.
The truth of the matter is that there are tons of different birth control options available. Many are equally effective, but not all of them will be ideal for you.
Beginner’s Guide to Online Dating Safety - What you need to know before you go out with that dude from Tinder
There is no reason to spare any expense when it comes to your safety. In the modern dating era, almost everyone uses a dating app to meet someone. When you talk to someone online, you really don't know who they are. It's just a few texts on a screen. If you agree to meet up in real life, then guess what? Someone entirely different may be joining you for dinner. Online dating safety isn't something that is first nature to everyone, but it needs to be.
The Secret to a Healthy Relationship? Never stop dating your partner
If you've struggled in your relationships before, you've likely come across the rule of "keep dating." But what does that mean? It's exactly what it sounds like. Just because you're living together or even married doesn't mean that you can let go of all romance. Over time, it can be easy to lose sight of the things that shaped who you are as a couple.
Start Dating for Real | Figure out what you actually want in a partner
Dating can be challenging and confusing. Especially with so many people out there playing the field post-COVID. Looking for someone to hook up with versus someone to spend the rest of your life with are two very different things. But how do you know which one you're looking for? How do you know which dating apps to use? Waste less time and attract the people you want to know by setting some rules and parameters for yourself.
Dating Red Flags - What to look out for to stay safe
When you're dating, everyone tries to be the best version of themselves. You want to show the best aspects of your personality. Almost like you're trying to sell something. Being aware of dating red flags means that you'll save yourself a lot of time, energy, and heartbreak moving forward.
How to Control Your Emotions - Stop letting your thoughts and emotions control you
Humans are emotional beings. You are no exception.
You're bound to suffer through sadness, stress, and anger. These help lead you to beautiful feelings such as happiness, love, and gratitude.
Did you know that you are not at the mercy of your emotions?
You can learn how to control your thoughts and feelings easily with a bit of guidance and practice.
The Power of Pictures in Your Dating Profile - Which ones to choose and why
Your dating profile is all about showcasing the best parts of who you are. It can take some time to accumulate the right photos, but it is worth the effort. Choosing the best pictures for your dating profile may sound overwhelming. Still, there are only a few simple requirements that most people look for.
How to Write a Dating Profile - What to include in your bio and how to write it
Dating apps are more common than ever in the COVID-19 era. Going out and meeting someone special through friends doesn't happen the way it used to. Writing the best possible dating profile can take some trial and error. But with some practice, you can write something just right to help you meet a special someone.