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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.
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What is a Situationship? Definition, types, and how to know if you’re in one
What is a situationship? You've seen the word pop up all over. Maybe you've got some idea of what it means - but how do you know if you're in a situationship? Is being in a situationship a bad thing?
5 New Ways to Masturbate for Men - Shake up the ol’ tug-and-rub
Men masturbate. That isn't a secret to anyone, anywhere. After all, with sexual expression just a few hand motions away, why not? But, after so many years - the same old tug and rub might get a little boring. There are plenty of new ways to masturbate for men that you likely haven't tried yet.
Birth Control Basics - Know your options and make the best choice for you
Perhaps you're new to using birth control methods, or maybe you've tried a few and are looking for the right fit. Choosing the right birth control for you can feel daunting, and like there are too many options.
The truth of the matter is that there are tons of different birth control options available. Many are equally effective, but not all of them will be ideal for you.
The Secret to a Healthy Relationship? Never stop dating your partner
If you've struggled in your relationships before, you've likely come across the rule of "keep dating." But what does that mean? It's exactly what it sounds like. Just because you're living together or even married doesn't mean that you can let go of all romance. Over time, it can be easy to lose sight of the things that shaped who you are as a couple.
Still Struggling to Have the Big O? - Female masturbation advice from a sexologist
Masturbation is vital for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Masturbation is the act of exploring your body and what sensations you enjoy.
It's meant to be a pleasure-filled experience focused on the journey, not the destination.
Too many people concentrate on the orgasmic aspect of masturbation. That's just a single second.
The whole experience is meant to bring pleasure and intimate personal knowledge.
This female masturbation guide is designed, so you can explore your body and your sensuality.
How to Clean a Masturbator - A step-by-step guide to cleaning your favorite sex toy
Masturbators come in all kinds of varieties, from expensive and long-lasting to cheap and disposable. Whatever type you go for, you're likely going to want to use it more than once. Caring for pocket pussies or masturbators doesn't have to be complicated. It's beneficial if you build yourself a little cleaning kit and routine to be second nature after nature calls.
How to Control Your Emotions - Stop letting your thoughts and emotions control you
Humans are emotional beings. You are no exception.
You're bound to suffer through sadness, stress, and anger. These help lead you to beautiful feelings such as happiness, love, and gratitude.
Did you know that you are not at the mercy of your emotions?
You can learn how to control your thoughts and feelings easily with a bit of guidance and practice.
How to Write a Dating Profile - What to include in your bio and how to write it
Dating apps are more common than ever in the COVID-19 era. Going out and meeting someone special through friends doesn't happen the way it used to. Writing the best possible dating profile can take some trial and error. But with some practice, you can write something just right to help you meet a special someone.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Porn - Why it’s important and 6 tips for having the conversation
Is there an elephant in the room in your relationship?
One elephant that requires attention is the one labeled "porn." Everyone has been exposed to pornography at some point in their lives. A large percentage of the population relies on it for visual stimulation during masturbation. But this critical topic often goes ignored. So, how do you talk to your partner about porn habits?
What is Pleasure Mapping? Unlock the secrets of your erotic identity
Answering the questions "what do you like?" and "what turns you on?" may sound sexy, simple, and straightforward. And to some people, they may be. But deeper desires and new erogenous zones lie all over your body, waiting to be tapped into and discovered. Whether it's the touch of a hand, the crack of a whip, or the vibrations of a sex toy, you'll only find out if you try.
The Sexiest Gifts: A 2021 holiday buying guide for everyone
As always, the holidays sneak up on all of us. Knowing what to buy for your partner or loved one can feel like an impossible challenge. Don't worry. I've got you covered with this sexy gift buying guide!
You'll feel inspired to pick out the perfect pleasure-positive gift for your friend or loved one!
Examples of the 5 Love Languages in Action | What you actually need to know
Everyone communicates differently, especially when it comes to love. You may feel like you and your partner are always on different chapters of the same book. Often, the reason is that you're speaking different love languages.
Knowing your love languages is helpful, but knowing your partner's may be even more critical. Learning the correct language could be a significant factor to determine your relationship's wellbeing.
What is “Dating Yourself”? Why you need to do it right now.
It isn't a secret that the responsibility for a better sex life rests with both partners. If you're in a long-term relationship, putting the pressure on a single partner to improve your sex life isn't fair. But for those who are uncomfortable, shy, or lack confidence in the bedroom, where are you supposed to start?
What is Intimacy? Meaning, types, examples, and more
Intimacy is the closeness you feel with other people in your relationships. Intimacy is much more than just sex and sexual pleasure. Intimacy is built-in friendships with family members and with romantic partners. Creating trust, feeling accepted, and having compassion for one another builds intimacy over time.
Intimacy isn't built overnight. It is a long-term commitment to another person. It happens by being vulnerable and sharing experiences together.
How to Initiate Sex? | A Guide for everyone
Initiating sex is a spot of contention in many couples. In an ideal world, all partners would experience sexual desire simultaneously. However, that rarely happens.
Not everyone is comfortable initiating sex, even in a committed relationship. We want to teach you what it might feel like to be your partner and creative ways for you to start initiating sex.
Mismatched Libido in Relationships - What it is, how to navigate it, and how to heal your relationship
Keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship can feel like fighting a battle uphill. One partner is always pursuing the other. At the same time, the other person tends to recoil when physical intimacy is initiated. Why are mismatched libidos in relationships so common?
Why You Need to Wear a Condom - The 6 most common STIs and how to prevent them
Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) impact nearly 1 in 5 people daily in the U.S. Due to the exaggerated risks and mythology around STIs, there is a lot of misinformation out there.
I want to cover 6 of the most common STIs and how you can detect them.
Practicing safe sex and getting tested for STIs regularly is your best option for protection. Get regular sexual health screenings, including blood tests, use barrier methods during sexual activity, and lubricants to help prevent STIs in general.
Prostate Health and Pleasure - What you need to know
The prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that is part of the male (penis-owner) reproductive and ejaculatory system. It is highly regarded by backdoor pleasure enthusiasts because of the earth-rocking orgasms it provides.
Understanding what the prostate is, where it is, and what it does can help you unlock layers of sexual pleasure you haven’t yet experienced.
The Real Truth About Penis Size - Does it matter or not?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Almost everyone is self-conscious about their genitals. Penis-owners tend to experience a tremendous amount of shame about the appearance, color, size, and angle of their penises.
This shame is because the myth perpetrated by magazines, pornography, and cultural stigma persists that bigger means better.
Want to know how your penis stacks up against others?
Should You Start Scheduling Sex? Turns out there are a lot of reasons why you should
Scheduling sex could save your relationship. When life gets in the way, and you and your partner no longer have time for intimacy, you start to forget about it. It moves to the back burner, then you push it further and further until it isn't even a topic of discussion anymore.
Scheduling love making means that you and your partner are prioritizing time together and physical intimacy. It means that you both view your sex life as important and that you're willing to make real change.