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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.
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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship? How unspoken needs and expectations can ruin everything
Dating and communication go hand-in-hand. That should go without saying. But, so few were genuinely taught how to communicate in healthy ways. You're in the right place if you think your dating life and communication style aren't working out. As it turns out, you can easily sabotage your intimate relationships by not openly expressing your needs.
Keep Dating Fixer-uppers? What they are, why you keep choosing them, and how to stop dating them
Many people love a good project around the house or long-term self-improvement goals. But if you notice your relationships feel like chores, you may be dating fixer-uppers. Supporting someone's self-improvement can be a great asset to a relationship. Still, it shouldn't be a defining factor in the partners you choose. If your entire relationship style is built around reforming a guy, you're in for a world of hurt.
You’re Probably Ruining Your Sex Life - 17 harmful myths about sex you probably still believe
Sex is amazing when you let it happen naturally and go with the flow. However, very few people can even do that because of the sexual scripts we've been taught our whole lives. Those problematic sexual expectations are carried into porn and even sex education in our schools. If you want to learn how to have the best sex of your life, you first need to unlearn everything you think you "know" about sex.
What is Personal Intimacy - What it is and why you need to make it your top priority
Intimacy is a hot relationship topic. It's all about developing your relationship with your partner or spouse. But what about your relationship with yourself? What about personal intimacy? Do you feel emotionally connected to yourself?
What is a Situationship? Definition, types, and how to know if you’re in one
What is a situationship? You've seen the word pop up all over. Maybe you've got some idea of what it means - but how do you know if you're in a situationship? Is being in a situationship a bad thing?
9 Signs Someone Values You - What to look for in that new match
To decide if someone is worth keeping around in an intimate relationship, you need to know if they value you. If a person cares about you, they'll behave in specific ways that show you they want to be with you. To figure out if this person is right for you, look out for these signs that someone values you.
Step-by-Step Guide to Healing a Broken Heart - How to get over your ex in 8 steps
Very little in this world hurts a person as much as heartbreak can. You genuinely feel physical pain throughout your body. Colors become duller, food loses its taste, and all you can do is seek cheap dopamine to feel better. While feeling the pain of heartbreak is part of the healing process, there is much more to it. Learning how to heal your broken heart is a process everyone goes through. Luckily, you are here for a bit of a cheat sheet.
Birth Control Basics - Know your options and make the best choice for you
Perhaps you're new to using birth control methods, or maybe you've tried a few and are looking for the right fit. Choosing the right birth control for you can feel daunting, and like there are too many options.
The truth of the matter is that there are tons of different birth control options available. Many are equally effective, but not all of them will be ideal for you.
The Secret to a Healthy Relationship? Never stop dating your partner
If you've struggled in your relationships before, you've likely come across the rule of "keep dating." But what does that mean? It's exactly what it sounds like. Just because you're living together or even married doesn't mean that you can let go of all romance. Over time, it can be easy to lose sight of the things that shaped who you are as a couple.
Start Dating for Real | Figure out what you actually want in a partner
Dating can be challenging and confusing. Especially with so many people out there playing the field post-COVID. Looking for someone to hook up with versus someone to spend the rest of your life with are two very different things. But how do you know which one you're looking for? How do you know which dating apps to use? Waste less time and attract the people you want to know by setting some rules and parameters for yourself.
How to Control Your Emotions - Stop letting your thoughts and emotions control you
Humans are emotional beings. You are no exception.
You're bound to suffer through sadness, stress, and anger. These help lead you to beautiful feelings such as happiness, love, and gratitude.
Did you know that you are not at the mercy of your emotions?
You can learn how to control your thoughts and feelings easily with a bit of guidance and practice.
How to Write a Dating Profile - What to include in your bio and how to write it
Dating apps are more common than ever in the COVID-19 era. Going out and meeting someone special through friends doesn't happen the way it used to. Writing the best possible dating profile can take some trial and error. But with some practice, you can write something just right to help you meet a special someone.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Porn - Why it’s important and 6 tips for having the conversation
Is there an elephant in the room in your relationship?
One elephant that requires attention is the one labeled "porn." Everyone has been exposed to pornography at some point in their lives. A large percentage of the population relies on it for visual stimulation during masturbation. But this critical topic often goes ignored. So, how do you talk to your partner about porn habits?
What is Relationship Coaching? Find out if it’s right for you and your relationship
A relationship coach is someone who specializes in supporting people in relationships. A relationship coach helps you understand who you are as a whole person. This enables you to enter and maintain a romantic relationship authentically and openly. That is why relationship coaching should always be a holistic approach.
10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship - What to look for and where to improve
It's normal to feel insecure in our relationships from time to time. Being concerned about the health of your relationship is a good sign. Your relationship takes daily maintenance, care, and concern, much like another person. Start feeling more secure in your love life and with your partner by knowing the signs of a healthy relationship.
What is Pleasure Mapping? Unlock the secrets of your erotic identity
Answering the questions "what do you like?" and "what turns you on?" may sound sexy, simple, and straightforward. And to some people, they may be. But deeper desires and new erogenous zones lie all over your body, waiting to be tapped into and discovered. Whether it's the touch of a hand, the crack of a whip, or the vibrations of a sex toy, you'll only find out if you try.
The Sexiest Gifts: A 2021 holiday buying guide for everyone
As always, the holidays sneak up on all of us. Knowing what to buy for your partner or loved one can feel like an impossible challenge. Don't worry. I've got you covered with this sexy gift buying guide!
You'll feel inspired to pick out the perfect pleasure-positive gift for your friend or loved one!
Examples of the 5 Love Languages in Action | What you actually need to know
Everyone communicates differently, especially when it comes to love. You may feel like you and your partner are always on different chapters of the same book. Often, the reason is that you're speaking different love languages.
Knowing your love languages is helpful, but knowing your partner's may be even more critical. Learning the correct language could be a significant factor to determine your relationship's wellbeing.
What is “Dating Yourself”? Why you need to do it right now.
It isn't a secret that the responsibility for a better sex life rests with both partners. If you're in a long-term relationship, putting the pressure on a single partner to improve your sex life isn't fair. But for those who are uncomfortable, shy, or lack confidence in the bedroom, where are you supposed to start?
What is Intimacy? Meaning, types, examples, and more
Intimacy is the closeness you feel with other people in your relationships. Intimacy is much more than just sex and sexual pleasure. Intimacy is built-in friendships with family members and with romantic partners. Creating trust, feeling accepted, and having compassion for one another builds intimacy over time.
Intimacy isn't built overnight. It is a long-term commitment to another person. It happens by being vulnerable and sharing experiences together.