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Beyond the G-spot - The 4 deep vaginal erogenous zones and how to find them

So many vulva-owners only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. While this is entirely normal, perhaps some more experimentation could be beneficial. Your deep vaginal erogenous zones may help you experience penetrative orgasmic pleasure.

Learning where each of these zones is will give your solo-sex and lovemaking a new kind of depth.

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BDSM for Beginners - What you need to know before you get started

You've heard all about it, but you're still not quite sure what BDSM is.

BDSM is a grossly misappropriated and misunderstood topic. It is often blown out of proportion or demonized by popular media.

BDSM groups and practices are based around mutual consent and different types of erotic experiences. They are a completely healthy expression of sexuality. Often, it doesn't involve penetrative sex.

It's all about the erotic exchange of power.

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Part 4 of Anal 101: How to Enjoy Anal Penetration - A step-by-step guide

You’re ready to get to the good stuff, but you want to be prepared. There are plenty of ways to do anal sex wrong on your first try.

I’m going to talk about how to do anal sex the right way your first time.

This article is the final piece in my exhaustive Anal 101 series. I strongly suggest you read the previous three parts so that you have all the information you could ever need.

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Part 2 of Anal 101: How to Douche - A step-by-step guide to anal douching

Anal sex is a topic filled with mystery and poor information. So is anal douching. While it isn’t 100% necessary to douche before starting with anal play, it can help you feel clean, sexy, and ready to go. Cleaning yourself can help reduce anxiety around anal play. Stress or concern about anal play is very common. Learning what you need to relax and enjoy yourself will be helpful along your anal pleasure journey.

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Part 1 of Anal 101 - The Anatomy You Need to Know: Why anal feels good and how to make it feel better

No one wants to start anal sex with no idea of what to expect. Knowing your anal anatomy will help you prepare for training and penetration. It will also make your anal experience positive and pleasurable. I’m breaking down how to have anal sex into four key pieces. You'll become an anal expert overnight!

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How Important is the Clitoris? What you don’t know will surprise you

The clitoris is commonly called the female powerhouse of pleasure, which is for many excellent reasons.

The clitoris is found at the top of the vulva, close to where the two lips come together. It is a sensitive area right where your inner vulva lips meet. It is filled with ultra-sensitive nerve endings. This beautiful pleasure button is responsible for 75% of female orgasms. This little nub packs a powerful pleasure punch, but what you see is just the tip of the iceberg.

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Are Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction Real? Causes, symptoms, and recovery

Sex and porn addiction seem to be in the news constantly. Many people debate whether or not they are true "addictions" in the medical sense of the word. Regardless of whether they fit the DSM's exact criteria, many people are addicted to the rush they give them.

If you or someone you love is addicted to sex or pornography, recovery is possible. First, you need to understand what sex and porn addiction are and the impact they can have.

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Beginner’s Guide to Lube Shopping: The 5 types and what they’re best for (and what to avoid)

When it comes to sex of any kind, wetter is better. However, choosing the perfect lubricant is difficult. There is so much variety available. How can you decide which lubricant is best for you?

There are five main types of lubricants. Water-based lubricants, Silicone-based lubricants, hybrid lubricants, naturally-based lubricants, and oil-based lubricants.

To choose just one, you need to know (1) is it condom compatible? (2) is it suitable for your skin type? (3) does it meet your sexual needs?

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Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toy Materials: What you need to know to protect yourself

Opening a sex toy website or walking into an "adult" store can be overwhelming. There are toys of every shape and size. You may find yourself asking, "who can choose just one?" It can be much easier to choose one than you might expect. The most important thing to know is what materials are safe for your body.

When it comes to sex toys, your safety is your responsibility. The adult toy industry is largely unregulated. It is up to you to know the different options out there.

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What is Dyspareunia? Symptoms, FAQs, and living with dyspareunia

It is common to experience pain during penetrative sex. However, it doesn't always have to be painful. With disorders like dyspareunia, there is hope to recover and enjoy penetrative sex again fully.

How prevalent is it? A recent study showed that as much as 20% of females suffer from dyspareunia.

Dyspareunia and vaginismus are similar but not the same. While they both cause you pain during penetration, dyspareunia is caused by an underlying medical issue.

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What Does Vaginismus Mean? Definition, causes, and how it can impact your life

Everyone thinks sex should happen naturally and easily. Unfortunately, that isn't the case for many people out there. Vaginismus is one of the most common causes of painful intercourse among vulva owners. But what does vaginismus mean? What causes vaginismus? If vaginal penetration by a partner or even a tampon causes you pain, keep reading.

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Sex Coaching vs Therapy - Which is right for you?

You've been researching how to improve your sex life. But you're not sure where to start. You know you need help, but what specialist is best for you? It may be challenging to figure out what you need with jargon thrown around. After all, what is the difference between sex coaching and sex therapy?

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Erection Questions - What you need to know

When it comes to erections, there is a lot more than meets the eye. You may think you know and understand penises well, but there is plenty of "fake news" out there. Let's set the record straight by answering your erection questions with simple answers.

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The 6 Steps I Recommend for a Lifetime of Great Sex - Advice from a sexologist

Your sex life has become meh. You've looked at items in sex shops. You've read articles in Cosmo. You're not getting the results you want. You want to know how to have better sex. Maybe it's better sex in a marriage, or you want to have better sex with yourself.

There isn't a magic pill to improve the quality of your sex life, regrettably. But there are 6 simple steps I recommend as a Clinical Sexologist that you can implement today.

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What is a Sex Coach? What sex coaches do and if it’s right for you

What is a sex coach? Why does this phrase keep coming up? What does a sex coach do? Basically, you want to have the best sex possible. But you don't know how. You've tried researching your sexual issues and hit a brick wall. You don't understand what sex coaching is or why a sex coach could be helpful.

Sex coaching is a new area in the coaching community. It helps serve areas of your life other coaches and medical professionals are too shy to address.

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