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As a sex, dating, and relationship coach, I understand that some people learn best by reading. That’s why I’m constantly writing new blog posts about sex, dating, and relationships so everyone can access this information. I’m writing here to help you and to start a conversation.
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Birth Control Basics - Know your options and make the best choice for you
Perhaps you're new to using birth control methods, or maybe you've tried a few and are looking for the right fit. Choosing the right birth control for you can feel daunting, and like there are too many options.
The truth of the matter is that there are tons of different birth control options available. Many are equally effective, but not all of them will be ideal for you.
Beginner’s Guide to Online Dating Safety - What you need to know before you go out with that dude from Tinder
There is no reason to spare any expense when it comes to your safety. In the modern dating era, almost everyone uses a dating app to meet someone. When you talk to someone online, you really don't know who they are. It's just a few texts on a screen. If you agree to meet up in real life, then guess what? Someone entirely different may be joining you for dinner. Online dating safety isn't something that is first nature to everyone, but it needs to be.
The Secret to a Healthy Relationship? Never stop dating your partner
If you've struggled in your relationships before, you've likely come across the rule of "keep dating." But what does that mean? It's exactly what it sounds like. Just because you're living together or even married doesn't mean that you can let go of all romance. Over time, it can be easy to lose sight of the things that shaped who you are as a couple.
Still Struggling to Have the Big O? - Female masturbation advice from a sexologist
Masturbation is vital for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Masturbation is the act of exploring your body and what sensations you enjoy.
It's meant to be a pleasure-filled experience focused on the journey, not the destination.
Too many people concentrate on the orgasmic aspect of masturbation. That's just a single second.
The whole experience is meant to bring pleasure and intimate personal knowledge.
This female masturbation guide is designed, so you can explore your body and your sensuality.
Start Dating for Real | Figure out what you actually want in a partner
Dating can be challenging and confusing. Especially with so many people out there playing the field post-COVID. Looking for someone to hook up with versus someone to spend the rest of your life with are two very different things. But how do you know which one you're looking for? How do you know which dating apps to use? Waste less time and attract the people you want to know by setting some rules and parameters for yourself.
How to Clean a Masturbator - A step-by-step guide to cleaning your favorite sex toy
Masturbators come in all kinds of varieties, from expensive and long-lasting to cheap and disposable. Whatever type you go for, you're likely going to want to use it more than once. Caring for pocket pussies or masturbators doesn't have to be complicated. It's beneficial if you build yourself a little cleaning kit and routine to be second nature after nature calls.
Dating Red Flags - What to look out for to stay safe
When you're dating, everyone tries to be the best version of themselves. You want to show the best aspects of your personality. Almost like you're trying to sell something. Being aware of dating red flags means that you'll save yourself a lot of time, energy, and heartbreak moving forward.
How to Control Your Emotions - Stop letting your thoughts and emotions control you
Humans are emotional beings. You are no exception.
You're bound to suffer through sadness, stress, and anger. These help lead you to beautiful feelings such as happiness, love, and gratitude.
Did you know that you are not at the mercy of your emotions?
You can learn how to control your thoughts and feelings easily with a bit of guidance and practice.
The Power of Pictures in Your Dating Profile - Which ones to choose and why
Your dating profile is all about showcasing the best parts of who you are. It can take some time to accumulate the right photos, but it is worth the effort. Choosing the best pictures for your dating profile may sound overwhelming. Still, there are only a few simple requirements that most people look for.
How to Write a Dating Profile - What to include in your bio and how to write it
Dating apps are more common than ever in the COVID-19 era. Going out and meeting someone special through friends doesn't happen the way it used to. Writing the best possible dating profile can take some trial and error. But with some practice, you can write something just right to help you meet a special someone.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Porn - Why it’s important and 6 tips for having the conversation
Is there an elephant in the room in your relationship?
One elephant that requires attention is the one labeled "porn." Everyone has been exposed to pornography at some point in their lives. A large percentage of the population relies on it for visual stimulation during masturbation. But this critical topic often goes ignored. So, how do you talk to your partner about porn habits?
What is Relationship Coaching? Find out if it’s right for you and your relationship
A relationship coach is someone who specializes in supporting people in relationships. A relationship coach helps you understand who you are as a whole person. This enables you to enter and maintain a romantic relationship authentically and openly. That is why relationship coaching should always be a holistic approach.
10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship - What to look for and where to improve
It's normal to feel insecure in our relationships from time to time. Being concerned about the health of your relationship is a good sign. Your relationship takes daily maintenance, care, and concern, much like another person. Start feeling more secure in your love life and with your partner by knowing the signs of a healthy relationship.
What is Pleasure Mapping? Unlock the secrets of your erotic identity
Answering the questions "what do you like?" and "what turns you on?" may sound sexy, simple, and straightforward. And to some people, they may be. But deeper desires and new erogenous zones lie all over your body, waiting to be tapped into and discovered. Whether it's the touch of a hand, the crack of a whip, or the vibrations of a sex toy, you'll only find out if you try.
The Sexiest Gifts: A 2021 holiday buying guide for everyone
As always, the holidays sneak up on all of us. Knowing what to buy for your partner or loved one can feel like an impossible challenge. Don't worry. I've got you covered with this sexy gift buying guide!
You'll feel inspired to pick out the perfect pleasure-positive gift for your friend or loved one!
Examples of the 5 Love Languages in Action | What you actually need to know
Everyone communicates differently, especially when it comes to love. You may feel like you and your partner are always on different chapters of the same book. Often, the reason is that you're speaking different love languages.
Knowing your love languages is helpful, but knowing your partner's may be even more critical. Learning the correct language could be a significant factor to determine your relationship's wellbeing.
What is “Dating Yourself”? Why you need to do it right now.
It isn't a secret that the responsibility for a better sex life rests with both partners. If you're in a long-term relationship, putting the pressure on a single partner to improve your sex life isn't fair. But for those who are uncomfortable, shy, or lack confidence in the bedroom, where are you supposed to start?
What is Intimacy? Meaning, types, examples, and more
Intimacy is the closeness you feel with other people in your relationships. Intimacy is much more than just sex and sexual pleasure. Intimacy is built-in friendships with family members and with romantic partners. Creating trust, feeling accepted, and having compassion for one another builds intimacy over time.
Intimacy isn't built overnight. It is a long-term commitment to another person. It happens by being vulnerable and sharing experiences together.
How to Initiate Sex? | A Guide for everyone
Initiating sex is a spot of contention in many couples. In an ideal world, all partners would experience sexual desire simultaneously. However, that rarely happens.
Not everyone is comfortable initiating sex, even in a committed relationship. We want to teach you what it might feel like to be your partner and creative ways for you to start initiating sex.
Mismatched Libido in Relationships - What it is, how to navigate it, and how to heal your relationship
Keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship can feel like fighting a battle uphill. One partner is always pursuing the other. At the same time, the other person tends to recoil when physical intimacy is initiated. Why are mismatched libidos in relationships so common?