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How my Situationship Revealed my Attachment Issues | A guest post
Have you ever hooked up with someone and thought to yourself, "I am DEFINITELY not falling for this person! They're not even my type!"
Yeah, well, that's what happened to me. I fell hard for my "situationship," and they broke my heart.
But within that heartbreak, I unwittingly embarked on a journey of self-discovery as my own attachment issues came to light despite all my effort to hide from them.
In the pursuit of validity and orgasms, my situationship ultimately acted like a mirror, forcing me to confront the deep-seated attachment issues that had silently influenced my relationships.
It's funny how the relationships you fall into impact you the most.
How to fix a lack of communication in a relationship | A relationship coach’s step-by-step guide
Communication is critical to the health of any relationship. Often, communication starts off as idyllic and healthy. Over time, it can break down and become strained; that's why you're here, right? If you and your partner are struggling with a lack of communication, you both must take steps to address the issue at hand. What is your overall goal? Improving your communication skills one day at a time. I will take you on a journey to fix the lack of communication in a relationship in this easy-to-understand guide.
Dating Duds? Set dating goals to cut the crap! | A step-by-step dating goal guide
Dating can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience, especially if you need clarification about what you want. The prospect of setting dating goals may seem odd or even aggressive. But it's how you get clarity before you sink your teeth into the dating game (likely not for the first time.) It's also essential that you know what your dating goals are so you can communicate them clearly to a potential partner. That ensures you're both on the same page and have no unspoken expectations. In this article, I will walk you through identifying your dating goals so you can finally get started with intention and clarity.
Dating Someone With Depression | How you can support yourself and your partner
Mental health awareness is growing every day.
Depression is discussed in nearly every mental health forum, but if you're dating someone with depression, you may feel lost on how to help them.
The fact that you're doing research on this topic shows not only that you care but that you're likely a walking green flag of a partner. Dating someone with depression may seem daunting if you don't have it yourself. However, understanding just a little bit can put you miles ahead.
Why You Aren’t Reaching Your Goals | How to build self-trust
We're well into another year, and the time for resolutions has come and gone. You've disappointed yourself again and fallen far from where you wanted to be. That's a normal part of the process of reaching your goals, but should it be? There is a reason why you never follow through on your resolutions. There's a reason why you keep disappointing yourself. There's a reason why you feel stuck and lost. You need to include the secret ingredient of reaching your goals, self-trust.
What is a Self-care Menu? Why you need one and how it can help you avoid depressive episodes
The self-care menu is something that I came up with myself to help me cope with depressive episodes.
That's right, even a coach can have depressive episodes.
But the menu is one of the many coping mechanisms which help me get through dark and challenging times.
Just what a self-care menu is, you'll have to keep reading to find out.
By the end of this article, you'll have yet another healthy coping mechanism in your pocket. These self-care menus can help you get through the challenging parts of life easily.
Dating Fatigue - It’s very real but this is how you can use it to your advantage
Dating fatigue is real.
You spend hours swiping, weekends on dates, and weekdays planning dates, and you're just burnt out. Looking for that special someone means constantly putting yourself out there. Your heart is constantly on your sleeve and yet, you fall short of your goal. That hurts and it's exhausting.
Friends as an Adult - Why you need them and where to make new friends
If you're anything like me, making friends is a challenge. Especially if you're new to an area or you've lost contact with the people in your past, it's a daunting prospect. You weren't taught how to make friends as an adult. So, it's normal to feel paralyzed.
If you're unsure how to make new friends as an adult, let's work through it together.
Habits of Successful Relationships - How to make your relationship healthier and happier
You're here because you want to have a successful long-term relationship. And we congratulate you on identifying that desire! But how will you be able to determine if you're in a healthy relationship? In order to find the love of your life, you need to start developing successful relationship habits. Knowing these success habits, you can practice them on your own and when you enter into an intimate relationship.
7 Signs Someone is Emotionally Unavailable - What it means, how to spot it, and how to choose better men
Have you ever gotten into a situationship by accident? The man you went out with in the first place said he was looking for a relationship, but then he back-pedaled? He seems to want all the benefits of having a girlfriend but isn't willing to commit. These actions define emotional unavailability.
5 Dimensions of Self-Care - How to make your ultimate self-care menu
Self-care is all the rage all the time these days! It's such an essential aspect of your self-development and maintaining your mental health. Often a few shifts in awareness are all it takes to get more self-care into your day-to-day life. But for many people, self-care tends to take a back burner to other "priorities," and it can lead to burnout.
Online Dating Advice for Ladies: What you need to know about online dating in 2022 powered by real statistics
Online dating has been around since the 1990s when the internet started to become commonplace. Before online dating, there were personal ads, speed dating events, and places where you could try to meet someone special. But with your phone constantly in your hand, the prospect of meeting mister right seems like it's just a few swipes away. But try as you might, as many swipes as you swipe, you just can't seem to find the "one," but why is that?
The End of Bad Dates - 13 questions to determine compatibility
When you're dating, you don't want to waste your time. You may find people you're interested in, but you feel like some aspects of your personality just don't match up. Maybe you can't put your finger on exactly why you're feeling that way. There may be several reasons. To get to the bottom of it, you should ask specific questions to determine compatibility as partners.
Your First Date Strategy: Rules and a step-by-step guide for getting ready
Butterflies in your stomach, feeling giddy, you start to wonder about a future together. First dates are the best, right? Well, not for everyone. First dates can be a nerve-wracking experience.
What is Personal Intimacy - What it is and why you need to make it your top priority
Intimacy is a hot relationship topic. It's all about developing your relationship with your partner or spouse. But what about your relationship with yourself? What about personal intimacy? Do you feel emotionally connected to yourself?
9 Signs Someone Values You - What to look for in that new match
To decide if someone is worth keeping around in an intimate relationship, you need to know if they value you. If a person cares about you, they'll behave in specific ways that show you they want to be with you. To figure out if this person is right for you, look out for these signs that someone values you.
Still Struggling to Have the Big O? - Female masturbation advice from a sexologist
Masturbation is vital for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
Masturbation is the act of exploring your body and what sensations you enjoy.
It's meant to be a pleasure-filled experience focused on the journey, not the destination.
Too many people concentrate on the orgasmic aspect of masturbation. That's just a single second.
The whole experience is meant to bring pleasure and intimate personal knowledge.
This female masturbation guide is designed, so you can explore your body and your sensuality.
Start Dating for Real | Figure out what you actually want in a partner
Dating can be challenging and confusing. Especially with so many people out there playing the field post-COVID. Looking for someone to hook up with versus someone to spend the rest of your life with are two very different things. But how do you know which one you're looking for? How do you know which dating apps to use? Waste less time and attract the people you want to know by setting some rules and parameters for yourself.
How Your Attachment Style is Impacting Your Relationships - What attachments styles are and how to find yours
Have you ever been called "clingy"? Or "emotionally absent"? You behave these ways because your attachment style in relationships molds how you act. There are four different attachment styles, three of which are insecure, one is secure. The good news is that you can change your attachment style.